Everyone gets rejected at some point. And it hurts big time. So how do you deal with it? Get some insight into your coping skills by taking this quiz.
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- You apply for a summer job as a barista in the trendiest coffee shop at town. You don’t get the job, but they ask if you want to be considered to be a parking attendant.
a) You say yes, but don’t hold out much hope. If you’re not good enough to be a barista, why would they want you as a parking attendant?
b) You say, “No, thanks”. You’ll only get turned down again so why go through that twice.
c) You say, “Yes, I’d love to!” It’s not your first choice and you’re totally pretending to be excited. But you need the job.
- You’re telling your friends a funny story when one of your teachers walks into a glass door. Everyone laughs – just not at your story.
a) You think, “That was funny, but my story was better. If I were a good storyteller I wouldn’t have flubbed it like that.”
b) You decide to avoid your friends for a while. If they can’t listen to your stories, why should you listen to theirs?
c) You laugh so hard you forget your story – it wasn’t nearly as good as watching your professor being a goof.
- You audition for the lead in the school musical. it’s down to you and one other student – and she/he gets the part.
a) You plan to put itching powder in his/her makeup on opening night.
b) You decide the drama teacher picked her because he/she’s prettier. You may have a better voice, but you’ll never amount to anything because you don’t have the looks.
c) You go out with friends for ice cream and commiseration, then refocus your attention on training for Saturday’s swimming class.
- You’ve been planning your birthday party for weeks. You lost sleep thinking up how crowded the party would be. The day finally arrives… and no one shows up.
a) You tell yourself, “Wow, what was I thinking?”
b) You decide it’s best not to ask anyone out in the future so you don’t embarrass yourself like that again.
c) You feel totally devastated, have a good cry, then reevaluate… They missed it, but I am worth of friends. I will plan another reunion soon with my closest friends.
- You’ve wanted to go to one college since you were 14, so you didn’t put much thought into your safety schools. But today you got to know that you were rejected.
a) You tell yourself you’re fine but keep thinking about how your dream is shattered and your life is ruined.
b) You give on your dreams of college. You’re just not smart enough.
c) You talk it over with your parents and decide to go to another school and try to transfer after a while. This definitely taught you the value of a backup plan!
Majority of a) – Self-defeating
Any single situation could cause a vast number of reactions, sometimes those reactions begin to sabotage our happiness. We seldom think much about our learning history, and it begins to control us without our realizing it. If we have developing self-defeating habits, those patterns can hurt our chances of a fulfilling life. When we repeatedly do harmful things, most of us ask, “Why do I keep doing things that are so self-defeating?” The answer is…..because we learned to react that way. Unfortunately, we only think about the “why” after a self-defeat, not before. To change sabotaging habits, we will need to think about them before sabotaging ourselves.
Dwelling or acting on them messes up any chances for our own great things!
Majority of b) – Too hard on yourself
Thinking we’re not good enough can undermine our belief in ourselves – and even affect how things turn out. Instead, focus on the new opportunities and learnings that come after not getting exactly what you want. Remember, sometimes the universe doesn’t give us exactly what we want maybe, because you deserve something better…😉 Keep your eyes open, learn from experience, and make the best of what you have.
Majority of c) – Well adjusted
It takes a healthy self-confidence to bounce back from disappointment and forge ahead. sometimes our second choice turns out better than our first – you’re open to discovering that. Well done!
We hope that you enjoyed this quiz, and that it helps you out to be a happier you.
Much love as always,